After reading many, many different posts in a few Biracial / Mixed / Multiracial / Curly Hair Facebook groups I’m in… I decided to put together a list of my top Do’s and Don’ts of taking care of Mixed kid hair.
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THROW AWAY THE BRUSH!!
Seriously parents. Do NOT brush your kids hair. Unless they are one of the few multiracial kids that don’t have any curl in their hair. But if they are like a majority of biracial kids then do.not.ever. brush their hair. It should only be combed while wet. My personal favorite comb is the Conair Wide Tooth Shower Comb.
CONDITION, CONDITION, CONDITION.
You should be using some form of, some combination of, some concoction of conditioner. Whether that is a leave-in, or moisturizing conditioner in the bath, and/or a deep conditioner. Honestly I recommend doing all of the above. In the shower/bath we use Mane n’ Tail Conditioner. We lather the hair in this before combing with the Shower Comb. We rinse mostly all of it out. Then we coat the hair with CurlyKids Curly Crème Conditioner. Again I comb it through the hair with the comb. DO NOT RINSE OUT. We also do a deep-conditioning treatment at least once per month, but usually bi-weekly. If you would like to see the process and products we use you can see our previous post here where we review the Thermal Hair Care’s Little Hot Heads Heat Cap.
FIND AN OIL THAT WORKS FOR THEIR HAIR
You have probably heard of the LOC or LCO method. The method basically means LIQUID. OIL. CONDITIONER or LIQUID. CONDITIONER. OIL. Its a layering technique to seal in moisture. The thing is though…. not all oils work for all hair. Try out different kinds until you figure out what works. I have read for a lot of people Coconut Oil (this is the one we have) actually dries out a bunch of multiracial kids hair, and other fellow curly haired beauties hair. But you are in luck. There are A TON of different kinds to try: Almond Oil, Castor Oil (also supposedly helps hair grow), Macadamia Oil, etc. (Linked the highest customer rated products on Amazon for yall… aren’t I sweet? Lol Here is a list of the Top 10 Rated Hair Oils on Amazon) Lately we have been using Righteous Roots Oil blend. Not only is it made by a small business mom, but it SMELLS AMAZING!! My daughter and I LOVE how it smells. Seriously. Try it out. It is a Pre-Poo oil, but can also be used as the O/Oil in the LCO/LOC method. We also use it in our deep conditioner treatment listed above. (LOVE multifunctional products!)
LEARN A SIMPLE PROTECTIVE HAIR STYLE
Mixed kids hair has special needs and precautions you have to take as a parent. It is your responsibility to learn them. One of the basics is to keep their hair in a protective style, especially at night time while they sleep, or while they are swimming, or running around playing. This will help prevent knots and keep their hair healthy. If you need some ideas I have already done a few simple tutorial posts that you can check out here, here, and here on this blog.
DO NOT OVERWASH HAIR!
Simply put… multiracial/curly hair has different needs than Caucasian/white/straight people’s hair. I could technically wash my hair everyday and it would be fine. But… if I washed my kids hair everyday?! It would be SO DRY. Don’t do it. We wash once per week. But that is only because my daughter has a more oily scalp like I do. When we wash we use a nourishing shampoo and only shampoo her roots. ONLY THE ROOTS. Some people can go even longer without washing. Actually… there an entire Curly Girls group on Facebook with over 50,000 members that DON’T EVEN USE SHAMPOO!! (it’s called co-washing). And let me tell you… their hair looks amazing. Figure out what works for your children and don’t be afraid to try something that is different.
MAKE A REFRESH SPRAY
Ok… what am I even talking about. Basically go to the dollar store, get a spray bottle, and fill it with water, some hair oil, and some conditioner, shake up, and use this throughout the week. This can be used in between washes to help “refresh” the hair and add some moisture. This also makes it easier to re-do hairstyles and revive curls mid-week. Even if we could go an entire week without doing my daughter’s hair, we usually re-do it at least once during the week to try to prevent knots. But that just happens to be what works for us. There are also pre-made sprays out there that you can use. We have a couple that we like and love: Soft & Precious Baby Products – Detangling Moisturizer and Lusti Organics – Olive Oil Hair Sheen.
TEACH YOUR KIDS TO LOVE THEIR HAIR
This is the MOST IMPORTANT DO. We as parents have the responsibility to teach our children to love their hair. Even if it is different than all the other kids in school, even if they want straight hair like you, even if it makes them stand out. Teach them that their uniqueness is GREAT. I don’t know how many times I’ve read parents wanting to straighten their kids hair because they want to be like the other kids in school. In my mind this teaches them that they have to change who they are to be like others. NOOOOO. NO. NO. Our biracial, multiracial, mixed, curly kids are already going to have to face so much resistance in their lives for their differences. Start as young as possible teaching them to be proud and accepting of their traits.
Especially vulnerable will be our multiracial daughters and sons with black mixed in. Society tells black/brown people that their natural/curly hair isn’t professional, isn’t acceptable, isn’t desirable… We have to fight that! I want my children to love their natural hair. It is our responsibility as parents to try as hard as we can to accomplish that. ( I want to add the disclaimer – I have straightened my daughter’s hair. Twice for her birthday(s) and made sure to remind her that her curly, natural hair is amazing.)
Now please keep in mind this list isn’t exhaustive, and I may come back in the future to edit it as I learn more. We are always learning and I am not afraid to admit if I am wrong and made a mistake. It’s ok if you do too. We, as parents, aren’t perfect. That’s ok. As long as we try as hard as we can for our amazing children that deserve the world.
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Thanks for taking the time to read. Do you have any other DO’S OR DON’TS for Mixed Kid hair? Let me know below in the comments!
Thanks for reading!
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